If I wrote my life story it would be entitled “Running Uphill.” Why; because I enjoy challenges and I am most comfortable pushing forward. On the shadow side of this superpower is the difficulty of slowing down and enjoying peace. I was an excellent short-stop and a terrible outfielder.
I don’t think I am alone here. In our performance-based, outcome-obsessed culture, this type of climb and achieve movement is what is seen, recognized, and rewarded. If you are like me, we respond to the stimulus of positive reinforcement like a trained rat. Achievement is wonderful and yet when reached a new level appears As you can see, this creates a never-ending cycle of achievement, loss of the thrill of the quest, and then a targeted next milestone. This may not be an issue for some. For me; it’s exhausting!
While I have not fully recovered from this uphill-mindset, I am on the journey to listening to my body and feeling more comfortable being awake, slow, and present. Here’s what I have learned after much trial and error:
Move everyday! It could be dancing, rollerskating, or running, etc. Just move.
Slow or stop social media use. No one cares if you forget to say happy birthday online, or if you miss the one advocacy rally you ‘should’ have attended.
In a moment with family and friends, slow the breath, and note the smell, sounds, and the feeling in the moment to truly be present and enjoy.
Start a hobby and be terrible. Do it anyway because it's fun and not about being awesome.
I believe that there is a way to make a difference in the world without sacrificing our health, happiness, family, or sleep. I am learning that sustainable leadership and energy has to come from putting on our own oxygen mask first and then sharing our rested, inspired, and compassionate selves with others.